Hari Nef

What we really need to look at is gender fluidity and the idea that gender can be customised however you want. ”

I feel like so much of mainstream feminism springs from the second wave, which was essentially a discourse spearheaded by white, cisgender, upper middle class women. I feel - especially as I'm trying to negotiate this new female space with the feminism that's available to me - there are a lot of places where I'm disenfranchised. ”

Sexuality is who you want to be with. Gender identity is who you want to be in the world. ”

If you don't know somebody, whether you're inquiring into their sex or their gender, it's invasive. ”

I think that you need to balance a critique of feminine, patriarchal beauty ideals while simultaneously understanding how they can make you safe, and they can make you feel safe, and they can open up certain doors for you that would have been closed. ”

I think that it should be every woman's choice, depending on how she feels comfortable. I can't think of any objective reason why you should wear makeup unless it makes you feel good. ”

To see a trans body in this ideal space - on a cover, in an ad - these are spaces that have immense cultural power to dictate what is beautiful, what is glamorous, what is aspirational, what is sexy, what is clean. That can be very powerful and helpful in the de-stigmatization of trans bodies. ”

I live in a little studio apartment, so I try to keep the space super clean at all times. ”

Dysphoria will always be a painful place. ”

For me, Instagram had become a place where I could image myself the way I found myself. ”