Sometimes I get insecure about being a real director because I look at the great directors, and they have such command. But maybe that keeps me critical of myself. Maybe it keeps me moving forward.

I've finally learnt how to say, 'No comment'. To appear in the tabloids is a real learning curve and a steep one at that. You had better learn quick or you get burnt.

As an actor, you can steer a scene in another direction by playing it a little differently. And honestly? I like being an actor, and I want to keep having a career.

I started as a child, in this PBS series 'Voyage of the Mimi,' which led to driving down to New York for 'Afterschool Special' auditions, which led to moving to Los Angeles. I wanted to be an actor. But in L.A., I got into film technology, and I was building cheap editing systems and would edit my friend's acting reels.

I wasn't ever anybody who had a political thing against marriage, but I just thought, 'Why would I want to do that?'

Sooner or later they are going to live in a New York City where gay marriage is not only legal, but it's common and they don't even notice.

I love my wife.

It's such a strange marriage, a song and someone that sings it. When that works, it really works, and when it doesn't, it doesn't.