Alexandra Fuller

You can have an intense connection to someone without being a good, lifelong mate for him. Love is complicated and difficult that way. ”

Marriage is the trickiest and most basic contract that we have. ”

I think for writers, I think it's really important to court eviction from your tribe: to expose things and to wake people up. And so I think that that can feel like a violation to the people you love the most. ”

I think there's a big difference between loving someone out of duty and dependency and loving someone because you really are able to sort of grow and be whole in the context of that relationship. ”

I always knew mum loved me - tough, look-after-yourself love, as if she knew she wouldn't always be there. ”

I love my mother so much, because I see the whole of her. ”

It's probably cliche to say this, but in my experience, people are far more alike than they are dissimilar. ”

In ways I don't entirely have the words for, an experience, thought or a lesson isn't real for me until I've written down. ”

The memoirs that have come out of Africa are sometimes startlingly beautiful, often urgent, and essentially life-affirming, but they are all performances of courage and honesty. ”

I write and I read, and I write and read my way into and out of ideas and life. And that's what we do. That's what storytellers do. ”