Albert Ellis

The art of love is largely the art of persistence. ”

Acceptance is not love. You love a person because he or she has lovable traits, but you accept everybody just because they're alive and human. ”

People could rationally decide that prolonged relationships take up too much time and effort and that they'd much rather do other kinds of things. But most people are afraid of rejection. ”

I get people to truly accept themselves unconditionally, whether or not their therapist or anyone loves them. ”

Rational beliefs bring us closer to getting good results in the real world. ”

We teach people that they upset themselves. We can't change the past, so we change how people are thinking, feeling and behaving today. ”

The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny. ”

I'm very happy. I like my work and the various aspects of it - going around the world, teaching the gospel according to St. Albert. ”

I think it's unfair, but they have the right as fallible, screwed-up humans to be unfair; that's the human condition. ”

If something is irrational, that means it won't work. It's usually unrealistic. ”